Sexual Desire: Good and/or Bad

I'm discovering that what drives my sexual desire is the key to whether or not that desire is sinful. My view of sex and sexual desire, up until, now has been twisted to say the least. God created sex and sexual desire and it's created intend was, as a gift between a man and a women in marriage to strengthen their bond and accent it, if you will. Sex and Sexual desires are good, no they're Great. God wants us to enjoy sex. He does not, however, want us to replace our need for Him with the need for sex. I have always placed more importance on sex than on anything else, God included. I searched for satisfaction there, have never found it, there, yet I continue to return to it, even now knowing the only place to find what's missing is with God Himself. In the bonds of marriage, in that biblical place where sex is not sin, I sin in my attitude towards my wife. Viewing sex as a right, a possesion, something due me, and I have Scripture to back me up. Yeah, right. That not what God think, even in the marriage bed, in the supposed pursuit of your wife as one of God's own children, I covet that gift of sex, motives of self-center gratification are in my depths, My desire for sex should not control my every thought. Yes, God created this drive in me, as a gift, not to consume all my attention, even if all my advance are at my wife, every thought about her and her alone, even then if my only motivation is to have sex then, I'm no better than worst sinner, indeed I am the "Chief of all Sinners". I do believe that God wants me to pursue my wife, but not for her gential area alone. If in the process of exploring who my wife is and what makes her "tick", if somewhere along the way we stop to enjoy each other sexually, then that a gift and worthy of enjoying to it's fullest. That's happening now, even though it's still a struggle, there are glimpse of what God intended sex to be in my life. It wonderful and gets better each time it happens. To say I can't wait, would be a lie, I can wait, and I can be content to let God give me that gift again, if He should ever chose to. Even in marriage, it not about me, it about Him.